Learning to trust again is vital for our happiness.
There is nothing quite as painful as the feeling that consumes us when we learn that we’ve been betrayed. It’s usually someone close to us who can make us feel that way. And that’s the worst part.
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Trust is such a fragile thing that when it breaks. It shatters our confidence in humans along with it. The problem is that we can’t have a fulfilling life if mistrust is a more familiar feeling to us than is trust. Studies have shown that our relationships with others give meaning to our lives. And it makes sense since healthy relationships contribute to our emotional well-being.
But how can your horoscope help you to foster healthy and positive relationships if we can’t even trust the other person?
It is very easy to lose faith in people once someone close to you has broken your trust. And you might start believing that this newfound belief that we should start every relationship with a general mistrust is smart, even healthy.
But I am here to tell you that it’s not. It isn’t healthy to drag the ghosts of a past relationship into a new one. So what if your ex-boyfriend has cheated on you? Does it really mean you have to check the current boyfriend’s cellphone? The answer is NO. Even if your heart is SO SURE that something fishy is going on at his end.
Even if he left the room to take that call. Even if her phone buzzed at an ungodly hour. You MUST NOT give in to this temptation that is fueled by your painful past.
Instead, what you can learn to do is trust again. I know, it sounds impossible, even ridiculous an idea. Why should I be so trusting this time when the world hasn’t lived up to my expectations, you ask.
My answer to you, my friend, is that we need to learn to trust others for our own sakes. You see, the more we give in to this idea that everyone is untrustworthy, we perpetuate this belief not just in ourselves but others, too.
You current partner, who probably doesn’t deserve to be treated with such mistrust, would end up feeling betrayed in another way.
The moment your partner sniffs out your fear and mistrust, he or she might start seeing your general concern as a part of this. This slowly breaks down your relationship, leaving two more people unhappy and unable to trust again.
Learning to trust again is necessary, therefore, cause a lack of trust in a relationship acts as a self-fulfilling prophecy.
One approach you could take to learn to trust again is through astrology. It might seem silly, but your zodiac sign reveals something key about your personality that is related to how you deal with betrayal.
1. ARIES (March 21 – April 19)
Being the first sign of the zodiac, you have an innocent soul and can trust others easily. You naturally have this inner confidence in yourself and the world around you. So when someone breaks that confidence, it can seem very difficult to trust again.
But being the resilient and pure soul that you are, it’s actually easier for you to learn to trust again after a heartbreak.
You see, everything depends on your confidence in yourself, and you just need to regain it. You need to remind yourself that you are whole and perfect as you are. No one can take that away from you. Likewise, the belief that someone equally pure at heart can and will show up will be reinstated in your mind.
2. TAURUS (April 20 – May 20)
You are very cautious before trusting another and once you’ve trusted someone, you are loyal to them till the end. But many people don’t know how to value your loyalty and trust.
So when your trust is broken, it’s like your entire world is turned upside down. This happens also because you crave security so much, that by breaking your trust, they crack your sense of security and self-esteem. You, of course, never forget and often stop talking to the culprit.
You’re also very stubborn, which might keep you from letting go, making you return to the past over and over again.
But in order to learn to trust someone new, you HAVE to let go of the old hurts. So, my lovely bull, you should try breaking off this consistent and demoralizing thought pattern that keeps you stuck in the past, and learn to embrace the unknown a little.
It’s true that of all the signs, you are THE sign who hates change the most. But for your own good, maybe that’s exactly what you need! If you have always secretly wanted to be a musician, go sign up for that music class.
Or, splurge and go on a dream vacation with your besties! It might seem extreme but maybe that’s what you need. Once you’re comfortable with these changes, you’ll have time to think it over and perhaps realize that just because one person was stupid enough to betray you doesn’t mean no one else deserves your trust.
3. GEMINI (May 21 – June 20)
You guys don’t trust that easily to begin with. So it’s very rare when someone manages to betray you. You pride yourself for being one of the smarter signs of the zodiac, so you might be extra harsh on yourself for your misjudgment when it comes to choosing whom to trust.
It might even leave you angry, actually, making you swear to never trust again. But being the fun-loving and experimental person that you are, you just have to remember that there are many fishes in the sea and that you should at least taste a few more before swearing off of them completely!
It might sound shallow to others, but you are also one of the most sociable people who know that humans are very different from one another and that for every ten rotten apples, there’s always a good one! And you should have fun trying to find the good one for yourself.
4. CANCER (June 21 – July 22)
You are very emotional in your relationships and follow your heart more often than your head. That is why you get extremely hurt when you’re betrayed. Because of the pain, it might be very difficult for you to even contemplate trusting someone else ever again. But you are also someone who really craves deep emotional connections, Cancer.
So my advice is that learn to trust gradually. It’s fine if you don’t enter into a relationship with complete trust, but be open to it. For instance, in order to figure out who is worthy of your trust, start sharing important details about yourself in bits and pieces. And then watch how they react.
Listen to your intuition more often than your heart and head.
You are a water sign and your intuition is meant to be very well developed. Also, I know this can be hard for you if you are feeling emotionally imbalanced, but before cutting someone off, try to stay calm and engage in an honest conversation.
Tell them how you feel about trust and loyalty. Or better, ask them their opinion. See if you two are in the same wavelength. This way, you can easily figure out who’s worthy of you trust.
5. LEO (July 23 – August 22)
You are one of the most loyal signs of the zodiac and that is why you demand absolute loyalty. You have a decent amount of self-respect and when someone betrays you, they end up hurting your ego as much as they hurt your heart.
This can fill you with rage because you loathe people who try to insult you. And betraying your trust can feel like an insult. What you need to realize is that the other person’s actions have nothing to do with you.
It is always a reflection of them and while the pain of broken trust hurts, you need to realize that they didn’t break your trust to insult you. It’s just how they are as a person at that moment.
Most importantly, the fact that someone has broken your trust doesn’t mean you are less worthy of love and loyalty. It doesn’t mean that you should stay away from loving relationships.
Think about the alternative to learning to trust again: a life without love. Doesn’t sound so warm and appealing, does it? Of course not! You are the sign of romance, and it’s in your nature to look for loving relationships. So look forward to all the other future possibilities of finding The One! I know you are always thinking about them.
6. VIRGO (August 23 – September 22)
You naturally have very high expectations from those around you. So when someone breaks the very foundation of any relationship, i.e. trust, you may start questioning if anyone will EVER be able to meet your expectations.
Your disappointment could lead you to either stop giving others a fair chance or drastically lower your expectations. Both of these decisions would end up just hurting you.
That is why you should realize that while it’s healthy to be a little skeptical, it’s not good for you to start believing that one person’s bad behavior is reflective of the whole species. Also, do NOT lower your expectations, Virgo. It’s still OK to expect the best from people. That is what makes you YOU.
So instead of closing yourself off to the possibility of trusting again, use your perfectionist superpowers and analytical abilities. Study what traits in people lead them to be more trustworthy and look for people who exhibit them. I know you love studying, so learning to trust again should easy and FUN for you.
7. LIBRA (September 23 – October 22)
Libra rules the sign of relationships and it’s especially important to your peace of mind to have relationships based on honesty, trust, and loyalty. You are one of those people who constantly need to be in relationships because they serve to balance you so well.
You enjoy such close relationships that you might even start identifying with your partner or loved ones, sometimes seeking validation from them. So when someone, especially your partner, breaks your trust, it can be devastating as you might start questioning your self-worth as a result.
You can learn to trust again by following a two-fold approach: First, learn to trust yourself and your judgment. Just because someone close to you has hurt you, doesn’t mean that you have poor judgment.
In fact, it’s time for you to realize that you need to start believing in your instincts more. Instead of thinking or rationalizing why someone might or might not be trustworthy, ask your gut for its opinion.
You also tend to go from relationship to relationship, which is why my second advice is to let some time pass to allow yourself to grieve. Just by allowing yourself that time, you could get a better insight into the type of relationship you want in life.
8. SCORPIO (October 23 – November 21)
It’s heartbreaking to see a Scorpio’s trust get broken because you guys enter this world with a general lack of trust. Your depth and wisdom at an early age make you realize that not everyone is trustworthy. So it takes a LONG time for you to start trusting someone. And once it’s gone, you usually swear to never trust again.
It’s difficult to advise you because you are the master of the inner workings of the human mind. But I’ll take a stab at it.
Firstly, you know that deep down you crave a deeply meaningful relationship and you know that you can’t have it without trusting another. So the most important thing that you can do to mentally and emotionally liberate yourself is by embracing your vulnerability.
You see, the emotional walls you build after a heartbreak only hurts you because it doesn’t let you discriminate between the positive and negative feelings and experiences.
True, these walls have the power to protect you against getting hurt, but they also keep you from forming profound connections. And as THE sign of deep emotions, you must already know that life really isn’t worth living without these enriching feelings and connections.
9. SAGITTARIUS (November 22 – December 21)
Trust is everything to you, my dear Sagittarius because you value honesty and the power of truth over all other things. So learning to trust again might seem impossible to you. But you can take help from your zodiac sign’s strengths in order to make create more meaningful relationships in life.
For instance, your zodiac sign rules activities such as learning and teaching and you can utilize your mastery over these skills by talking about your experiences with others.
During the early stages of a relationship, you could be brave enough to share what you’ve learned from having your trust broken in the past. The other person might even join in, making this honest conversation a learning experience for both of you.
By being vulnerable and open like this, you’ll encourage greater trust in your partner, who might have had a similar experience to you. Your natural optimism should come to your aid here.
10. CAPRICORN (December 22 – January 19)
You don’t trust easily, Cap, and it’s very difficult to bring that trust back once it’s been broken. You are one of those signs who can easily stop trusting others, in fact. And that’s a shame since you have so much to offer to a relationship.
Once your trust has been broken, you might start believing that having a relationship isn’t worth it. That you don’t deserve to have a relationship based on trust. But before you start to say no to relationships, try to understand where dishonesty stems from. It’s often people with low self-esteem who end up breaking your trust.
Once you’ve realized this, try to forgive that person. I know it sounds impossible but you more than anyone else should know how damaging low self-esteem can be to the ones who possess it. After all, you, despite all your accomplishments, often feel you are not enough.
By forgiving the other and forgiving YOURSELF, you can finally move forward only to realize that there are many people who are trustworthy.
11. AQUARIUS (January 20 – February 18)
It should be easier for you to learn to trust again because you are so open-minded. You tend to judge people based on their individuality and unique traits. So usually you are not someone who takes the hurt from the past into new relationships.
But you are also a fixed sign and as such could be driven to think consistently in negative thought patterns. Journaling and meditation could prove to be powerful tools for you.
By writing everything down, you learn how to get rid of the chaos in your mind and find new meaning in your experience. And meditation helps you to disassociate yourself from the negativity that is a common aftermath of heartbreak.
Finding solace in friends and meaningful causes could also help you restore your faith in humanity.
12. PISCES (February 19 – March 20)
You are arguably the most sensitive soul of the zodiac and betrayal can be jarring to you. It is very easy for you to feel let down by the world and build walls to protect yourself from further pain. In fact, you might continue to be haunted by the pain for a very long time.
While it’s easy to blame the other person for the wrong they’ve done, it’s actually harmful to you to dwell in these thoughts because it instills a scary victim mentality in you. This type of mentality can strip you of your self-confidence, affecting all areas of your life.
That is why you must learn to let go of the hurt and forgive the other person. The last part is easy for you since you have a very compassionate soul. Meditation can help you with letting go and creative outlets can help you balance your emotions.
Once you’ve managed to do that, you can look to your friends and family for support as well. I am sure there is at least one person in your life who is not only trustworthy but also loves you unconditionally. Think about what makes this relationship so rich and fulfilling. You already trust them so much. Wouldn’t you want to have a similar connection with someone else?
Mehruba Chowdhury is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture and relationship topics.